Rude online dating
When asked what the f*ck his deal was, Rob said that he’d called Gina a ‘fat cow’ because she was a time waster – and that it was acceptable to send her abuse because he wasn’t ‘physically connected’ to her.
‘I don’t have to be nice over the internet when someone annoys me,’ he said, ‘but I do in real life as the ramifications are much more severe.’ ‘If that makes me a coward, then so be it.
The way I see it is that the longer this behavior continues without being addressed, the more new dirtbags come to the surface. I’m done being the nice girl and I stopped letting people walk all over me in high-school.
I remember feeling obliged, when I got a message from a woman who didn’t interest me, to try and craft a nice reply that didn’t make her feel bad about herself. If there’s no contact, it’s harder to take it personally.
” How am I supposed to take these emails that I’m getting? Thru events from LA Weekly, thu email lists like Thrillist, thru random happenstance at the gym, at Ralphs, on Sunset Blvd, at the UCB Theater, thru Meetup.com, thru friends’ house parties, thru work friends, and business networking, thru set ups, thru matchmakers, thru singles organizations, church or temple. But because “real life” doesn’t always provide enough opportunity on a week by week basis.
I find them so mass-market, like I bet they copied and pasted and sent to 30 girls without reading about me at all. And yet, despite all of those options for young people here in LA, it’s tough. And unless you get lucky at the Grilled Cheese Invitational or First Fridays on Abbot Kinney, it’s very easy to live in a huge city and never meet any men. Your ad is live for 24 hours a day for men to approach you, and if you log on for 20-30 minutes each day to reply and reach out to one new guy, your social life will instantly pop.
If you don’t have anything nice to say, get off the Internet. If you have the audacity to make rude and unwarranted sexual remarks when we haven’t even met in real life, then I certainly have the courage and the right to stand up against your disgusting and poor communication skills.
Don’t serve out your BS if you’re not willing to take on the mess. It’s getting extremely tiring for women who are serious about finding someone special having to weed through rude and unnecessary messages online and spoken to like they’re nothing.
So if you fancied catching up next week for a few drinks and a shag, let me know.’ We sat around in stunned silence. Apps have made the process of getting to know someone, of securing dates speed up immeasurably – so it shouldn’t be too shocking when people aren’t prepared to pussyfoot around. She started the conversation and almost immediately was faced with a barrage of abuse.